FFM Threesomes: What to Do With the Other Woman

So you’re a woman who has decided to take part in an FFM threesome, but you may be nervous about what you’ve gotten yourself into. One thing you might be wondering about it is whether you are expected to have lesbian sex with the other woman? the answer is, not if you don’t want to, but if you don’t, you should make that clear beforehand. Unless you’ve said otherwise, your female threesome partner probably expects to hook up with you in some fashion. If you wait until you’re naked in bed together to tell her that you aren’t interested in any sexual interaction with her, she could be disappointed, or even peeved, and that could ruin the threesome for everyone.

Even if you do not to be sexual with the other woman in your threesome, that doesn’t mean you should follow a strict hands-off policy. Most women are comfortable with kissing and hugging other women. Once the action gets started, you could caress her when she’s giving fellatio, insert the man’s penis into her vagina, or slap her butt when she’s riding him. These interactions are playful and keep eveerything fun and loose. Otherwise, what is supposed to be a threesome just becomes two women taking turns have sex with a man. Also, if the other woman’s hand should happen to cup your breast or slip between your thighs, just relax and enjoy it. It doesn’t mean that you have to reciprocate if you don’t want to.

Even if you’ve had lesbian fantasies, being sexual with another woman be awkward, or even intimidating, if it’s your first time. It’s one thing to fantasize, but it’s quite another to have a naked woman in bed with you. If the other woman is experienced, you could let her take the lead, but it isn’t fair to put everything on her. If you are ready and willing, but are not quite sure what to do, here are some suggestions:

1) Bring out the toys.

Bringing out the sex toys can serve as a gentle introduction to being sexual with another woman. You can turn her on and even give her an orgasm without a lot of direct physical contact if you want. You don’t even have to think of it as lesbian sex. You’re just helping your female threesome partner to get off You might start by using a vibrator to stimulate her clitoris while she’s giving head or having sex, but that’s just an example of how adding sex toys to your FFM threesome can take the excitement to another level.

2) Play with her breasts.

Once the clothes are off, one of the first things you’ll notice are the other woman’s breasts. Go ahead and touch them. Do more than that if you’re so inclined. Play with them the way that you like yours played with and see how she reacts. As a bonus, the man may learn something by watching how you two go about it.

3) Try tribbing.

Tribadism, or tribbing, is a sex act in which a woman rubs her vulva against her partner’s vulva for sexual stimulation. It’s not as commonly done as fingering and oral, but it can be fun. One position in which to do this is called scissoring. Sit down facing each other, spread your legs, and scoot toward each other until your vulvas meet. Move your body back and forth to rub your clitorises together. Many women prefer tribbing in missionary position with one woman on top of the other. In this position, you not only have vulva-to-vulva contact, but full-body contact as well.

4) Finger her.

Feeling another woman’s vulva for the first time can be thrilling. Start out by playing with her the way you play with yourself and see how she likes it. You may not have touched another woman’s vulva before, but you have touched yours, so you have a good idea about what feels good down there. You don’t have to put a finger inside her, but once she’s turned on and wet, she will probably want you to.

5) Give her oral.

Going down on another woman may seem like a big step, but if you try it, you may find that you really like it. Giving oral sex to your female threesome partner is also a great way to ensure you’ll get off later since you’re giving it the way that you like it. If you’re unsure of yourself, ask her if she likes what you’re doing and what she wants you to do.

You certainly do not have to do all of these things or do them in order. Threesomes should be spontaneous and fun. Do what you and your female partner feel like doing. You can also involve your male partner as you two are going at it. Just watching another female have sex – real sex, not porn sex – can be interesting and exciting, but an FFM threesome is the most fun when the two women also explore the sexual possibilities between themselves.

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