6 Steps to Giving Your Lover a Powerful Orgasm With Your Hands

Manual stimulation of the vulva, and in particular the clitoris, is the most common way for a woman achieve an orgasm, so giving your lover an orgasm with your hands ought to be easy. After all, you've probably given yourself one, but what you like may not be the same as what another woman likes. However, there are several techniques that the majority of woman like. If you follow the six steps below, you will give your lover so much erotic pleasure that she is almost sure to have a powerful orgasm.

1) Make circles on her clitoris.

The clitoris is the most powerful erogenous zone on a woman's body, so begin by using two fingers (the index and middle finger) to rub your lover's clitoris gently in a circular motion. Gradually increase the speed as she shows signs of increasing arousal.

2) Slide your fingers all the way down and back up again.

Making sure your fingers are lubricated, next start moving your fingers down the side of the clitoris all the way to her opening and then back up again. This common move of oral sex can also work with fingers, as long as you keep the pressure light and the area well-lubricated.

3) Penetrate her vagina.

Penetrating the vagina with a finger is the next move. Put your middle finger inside your lover's vagina and gently thrust it in and out of her. The best position is with you in front of her vulva, kneeling between her legs. Increase the pressure and speed if she seems to like it.

4) Find the G-spot.

The next step is to find the G-spot. The G-spot is located about 2-3 inches deep and upwards, on the front wall inside the vagina. Turn your palm up and make the “come here” gesture with your middle and index finger. If your lover is sufficiently aroused, you should feel a rougher patch of skin about the size of a quarter. Start pressing and rubbing, and then increase the pressure as you lover responds.

5) Use the Shocker.

This next step is optional, but if your lover is open to experimenting, use your pinky finger to slightly penetrate her anus. Make sure to keep fingering her vagina at the same time that you slip it in. This dual stimulation may be enough to send your lover right over the edge.

6) Add your other hand.

You can also use your free hand to stimulate her vagina or G-spot while rubbing her clitoris at the same time. When using both hands, try stroking and penetrating with different rhythms. Once you find a rhythm, keep it steady and don't worry about speed unless she's screaming at you to finish her off.

While your hand is between her thighs, pay attention to the as much of the rest of your lover's body as much as you can. This will add to her excitement. If you are ever unsure whether your lover likes what you're doing, just ask her. Her feedback can help you hit just the right spots.

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