1) Make eye contact.
If you ask anyone, they will tell you that if you want to start flirting with someone, you have to be bold enough to make eye contact first! If a woman catches you looking at her, give her a quick smile while establishing eye contact. When you are talking to a woman you are interested in, look her in the eye and hold the gaze for a little longer than you would a normal conversation.
2) Don't forget to smile.
Sometimes, all you need to make a great impression is a great smile! With a smile on your face, you look more approachable, confident, and like someone people want to get to know. When you flash a genuine smile at someone, it's hard for them not to smile back, and that puts them in a more positive frame of mind.
3) Ask her questions about herself.
When you’re flirting with a woman, you’re going to want to ask her questions about herself. After all, how else are you going to learn more about her and discover if she’s really someone you want to date? Avoid asking questions that can be answered in one or two words. Use open-ended questions that encourage conversation.
4) Pay her compliments.
As a woman, you understand how important compliments are to your self-esteem. When you are interested in a woman, you should make a point of telling her how attractive she is, how funny her jokes are, or how intelligent she seems. When you compliment her, however, make sure it is sincere and truthful.
5) Keep a light touch.
When you’re flirting with a woman, don’t hesitate to touch her lightly. This can be as subtle as touching knees when you’re sitting next to each other or touching her arm lightly if you’re making important points in conversation. Sometimes all it takes is brushing against her lightly or even a brief twirl of her hair to take the encounter from “just friends” to “I’m interested in you.”
6) Display your sense of humor.
Women love people who can make them laugh. If you’re trying to make a good first impression, you should try to show off your sense of humor. Everyone likes to be around people who like to laugh and have a good time..
7) Keep it positive.
When you show a woman that you have a positive personality, you’re letting her know that you are pleasant to be around and will make her feel good. No one needs or wants more negative people around them.
8) Be open and honest.
Being open and honest about what you want is important when you are pursuing a woman. Don’t try to put on an act to get her attention. The genuine you has a much better chance to win her affection - if she's worth it.
9) Relax and breathe.
It's understandable that flirting can cause some anxiety, but relax! When you go up to flirt with a woman, and you’re nervous, she can pick up on that. So even though you may feel nervous about approaching her and flirting, just take a deep breath, and relax.
10) Keep it simple.
Don't waste time trying to think of a devastatingly witty comment to make to the woman you have your eye on. If you're drawing a blank, just walk up and say, "Hello, my name is (insert your name here). What's yours?" If you end up in a conversation that's great. If not, you were being friendly and that's always nice, right?
Remember that most of the women you bump into in a social setting are going to be sitting there hoping to meet someone new, so be bold and introduce yourself. You have little to lose and a lot to gain!
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