10 Tips for Great First-Time Lesbian Sex

So, you're thinking about having lesbian sex for the first time. You’ve met someone. There are signals of sexual interest. She is touching you all the time. Her hands are all over you, and you’re feeling equally free to touch her the same way. This kind of touching is a turn-on, so what’s next? If you do go to bed with this woman, what will it be like? What are you supposed to do?

Here are ten tips to make first-time lesbian sex a mind-blowing and special experience:

1) Calm your nerves

If you're wondering how will you know what to do, don't worry. It's natural to be nervous when trying anything new, but don't stress out about it. If your new lover is experienced, she will almost certainly take the lead. You can just relax and let her guide you. If you're both new to lesbian sex, you can experiment together. Either way, it will be fun and exciting.

2) Communicate

Ask your lover what she likes and what she wants. If she’s a shy, then stop for a moment and ask if she likes what you're doing with each new way you touch her. Be brave yourself and tell her where and how to touch you, too. She’ll appreciate it and so will you. The more both of you communicate your desires and feelings, the better the sex will be.

3) Foreplay

Spend plenty of time caressing, hugging, and kissing your lover. Try to run your fingertips over every square inch of her skin. Make out with her until you feel heat radiating from her skin.

4) Breasts

Some women don't enjoy having their breasts touched, but if breast play is on the agenda then, as a general rule, start gently. Some women's breasts are more sensitive than others. Try not to grab. Cup them delicately, trace them lightly with your fingers, and kiss them softly. Be sure to pay attention to both breasts. If all is going well, try licking her nipples, using circular movements along with sucking - but not too hard.

5) Fingering

Fingering is how many, if not most, women masturbate, but some women enjoy very fast friction directly on the clitoris, while others prefer slow rubbing on the outer lips. Build up speed and pressure gradually. When she is ready for you to go inside her, start with one finger and add more later if she wants it.

6) Tribbing

Tribbing, also known as grinding or humping, is just rubbing your bodies together,. It's the most natural thing in the world for two lovers to do. There are many possible positions, but try it with one of you lying on her back and the other on top and between her thighs. Then just rub and grind against each other in whatever way feels good.

7) Giving oral

Giving oral sex seems to be the act that first-time lesbian lovers are mos nervous about. First of all, you don't have to do it, so relax. If you do get so turned on that you want to try it, starting slowly is the best approach. Gently part her outer labia and lick up from her opening to the clitoris. Lick up and down the labia themselves. Then, focus on the clitoris and licking round it, using a circular motion. Vary the pressure, and build up speed gradually. Some women also enjoy a finger or two inside them during oral sex. Basically, just concentrate on trying to make her feel good. If she has an orgasm, great, but if she doesn't, it will still have felt good.

8) Don't bring out the toys.

Sex toys are great but not for your first time. Be present with your new lover’s body, her breathing, her sounds, and her scent. Save the toys for later.

9) Orgasms

Women generally take some time to achieve orgasm and some find it hard to have one at all. Don't despair if you've already climaxed, and she's still nowhere near the finish line, or vice versa. Remember that an orgasm is not the be all and end all of a satisfying sexual encounter. You may orgasm or you may not. She may have an orgasm, or she may not. It’s not the most important thing. The goal is to get close and get physical.

10) Relax and enjoy

You may have been yearning to have lesbian sex for a long time, or the opportunity may have caught you by surprise. Either way relax and enjoy it now that it's happened. There will never be another first time. Slow yourself down and really take in the experience. Take the time to explore every inch of her soft, feminine body now that you have the opportunity.

If you enjoy your first time having lesbian sex, you may wonder, what's next? The answer is, plenty. You’ll learn a lot from every sexual encounter you have with a woman. You’ll also learn more about what you like and what other women like. We aren’t all the same and it’s a lot of fun to discover all the different ways you can please another woman in bed.

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