12 Questions Never to Ask a Lesbian

Since lesbians are not the norm, but a minority, it's natural to be curious and want to assk questions. However, there are least twelve questions that most lesbians are tired of answering. A few are a bit ignorant or even a little mean, some can seem a bit personal, and others can be a little difficult to answer off tthe cuff. So, to save lesbians from having to answer them, here are answers to twelve questions they don't want to hear:

1) Have you always been a lesbian?

It's complicated. Although some always knew, many lesbians didn't really discover their sexual orientation until they fell in love with a girl or had their first lesbian sex experience. Also, women tend to become more sexually attracted to other women as they get older.

You’re so pretty! Are you sure you're a lesbian?

Looks don't have anything to do with sexual orientation. Some straight women are pretty, and some are not. It's the same with lesbians. Women don'tt become lesbians because they can't get a man. Women become lesbians because they don't want a man.

3) Which one of you is the man in the relatitonship?

Neither. Both of us are women. That's kind of the point.

4) Do all lesbians dress like their partners?

Some lesbian partners dress alike becausethey have the same style and share clothes, but so do female friends and sisters.

5) If lesbians aren't attracted to men, why are they attracted to women who look like men?

This is only confusing to people who assume that looks are the only thing that attracts people to one anothter. Even though you may think some lesbians look like men, they're not,. Women with a mesomorph body type may appear masculine, especially if they also adopt a masculine style of dress, but they are still female.

6) Why do lesbians hate men?

Most lesbians don't hate men. Do you hate everyone you're not sexually attracted to? Man-hating is usually associated with bad personal experiences or far left politics. That includes some lesbians, but also some straight women.

7) Is there any way to tell for sure that a woman is lesbian?

If only. A flannel shirt, short hair, or short fingernails are only clues that she might be a lesbian, not clinchersn. Asking her if she has a boyfriend is probably the most noncommittal way to give her the chance to tell you if she wants to.

8) Do lesbians want to have sex with every attractive woman they meet?

Do straight women want to have sex with every attractive man they meet? The answer is "no." Lesbian women have types, preferences, and standards just like straight women do.

9) So, how do lesbians have sex?

Lots of different ways. This is a list of the favorite ways. There are also two sex acts than only lesbians can perform.

10) Why do lesbians use dildos if they don'tt like penises?

Penises are attached to men, and lesbians aren't attracted to men. Being women, some lesbians do enjoy penetration, but they prefer it be done by another woman. Enter the dildo.

11) Have you ever had real sex?

Since lesbians have more orgasms than straight women, you could make the case lesbian sex is more real than straight sex for women.

12) ’ve always wanted to be a lesbian, but I just can’t give up sex with men, you know?

You don't have to sign a pledge or anything to be a lesbian. Some lesbians don't consider bisexual women one of "them," but there are always going to bee judgmental people anywhere you go.

If you found the answers to any questions that you have wondered about, at least one woman has been saved some time and trouble. If you have additional questions or even alternative answers, leave them in the comments.

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