10 Tips to Be a Betterr Kisser

It all starts with a kiss. A kiss is where we often decide that we might want to do more than kiss her sometime. It's also where we often decide, we don't. Even if you're just kissing for fun, not love (or lust),ti  make sure your kisses are turn-ons, not turn-offs, follow these ten tips to be a better kisser.

1) Pick the right moment.

Follow the other woman's body language signals in order to knowwhen it's the right time to initiate a kiss. If it doesn't feel right, don;t try to force a kiss. On the other hand, don't leave her waiting so long that she begins to wonder whether you're interested in her.

2) Use your eyes.

Since you can't use your mouth to speak when you're leaning in for a kiss, say it with your eyes instead. However, when you're actually mid-kiss, dial back the eye contact since it can be a bit unnerving to find someone staring at you in close range.

3) Stay in the moment.

You are guaranteed to feel more connected to the other woman if you stop feeling anxious about your kissing skills or something you said fifteen minutes earlier. Tune out any mental chatter and staying the moment.

4) Take your time.

Kissing is a team effort. Don't squelch your teammate's spirit by going on the offensive, such as by trying too hard to control the situation or lead the way. She may have some ideas of her own.

5) Mind your tongue.

Using the tongue can be great - in moderation. Remember, mo one likes to be dreched in saliva, or have their whole mouth filled by someone's tongue. Try starting out slowly and lightly with no tongue and increasing the intensity as the kisses gets more passionate.

6) Pay attention to the surroundings.

Whether it's a candlelight dinner, a tent under the stars, on the beach, or in a sudden rainstorm, special new surroundings make a kiss intriguing. Since your eyes are closed most of the time during a kiss, you can hear and even feel your surroundings more intensely.

7) Be spontaneous

Feel free to relax and experiment with different styles of kissing to keep things interesting. Try gently tugging on her lower lip with your teeth during a kiss, using more tongue, changing sides during a kiss, or gentle biting so long as both of you are into it. (For more ideas, see my article 10 Sexy and Romantic Types of Kisses Every Lesbian Should Know.)

8) Follow one another's lead.

Good kissers will mirror one another's movements so that they're both on the in sync. Notice what your partner is doing and imitate it. Or, take the lead if you want to try something different. Feel out one another's desires and kissing styles, and go from there.

9) Make it a full-body experience.

A kiss will feel even better if you hold her close during a kiss or touch her neck or back. Don't rush into more sexual touching, though, especially if your kissing partner is a friend, not a lover (at least not yet).  It's important to read her cues before moving from making out to making love.

10) Learn your erogenous zones.

On a final note, don't forget the erotic potential of the ear lobes, nose, the neck, and the collarbone.. Remember, hickeys aren't everyone's favorite thing, so don't bite down or latch on unless your partner indicates that she's into that.

Kissing is a great way to get to know someone. Of course, it's also a great way to maintain your connection with someone you already know.It may all start with a kiss, but it also stays with a kiss.

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