How to Go Down on a Woman for the First Time in 7 Sexy Steps

Are you new to lesbian sex or just have a new lover? It's certainly true that every woman is different when it comes to what she likes sexually, so how do you know how to please her the first time? Fortunately, although women are different, they're not completely different.  Following these seven sexy steps to going down on a woman for the first time should ensure that your first time is a great time.

 1) Tease her.

Teasing is an important part of getting your new lover turned on, so make the most of it. Take your time undressing her and kissing her all over her body. Move on to her thighs, and lick and kiss them. Use your hands to pull her thighs apart, and lightly  kiss her labia. Run your fingertip along the edge of her vaginal opening. Keep kissing and licking all over her vulva until she’s begging you for more.

2) Be enthusiastic!

Enthusiasm is contagious. Act like you really want to be going down on her. Compliments about your lover's smell or taste or the appearaance of her vulva can help her relax and enjoy herself. On the other hand, if you appear reluctant or act as if you're doing her a big favor, she won't be able to enjoy herself no matter what you do.

3) Start from the outside and work your way in.

Licking around the vulva can be just as important as paying attention to the clitoris when it comes to turning your lover aroused.. Remember that orgasms need a build-up and take probing and prodding before focusing on the sweet spot. Approach oral sex the way you use the utensils at a fancy restaurant - go from the outside in.

4) You have a whole face, so use it.

Using your wentire face and not just your tongue can add to your lover's pleasure. For example, if you're giving direct clitoral stimulation, try cupping the clitoris lightly between your lips while moving your head around. Your nose can also be used to provide stimulation.

5) Focus on the clitoris.

After the teasing and foreplay, focus on the clitoris. Some women prefer direct contact with the top of the clitoris, while others lprefer having the sides stimulated. One way to get a sense of what she likes is to move your tongue in a wide circle around her clitoris, without touching it. Slowly work your way closer to her clitoris, and then eventually make circles on top of the cliorist. Notice what she reacts best to, or just ask her how she likes it best. From there, keep most of your attention on the areas of her clitoris that feel best to her.

6) Give her a hand.

It may seem safer to stick to your tongue when going down on a woman for the first time, but a lot of women like the combination of clitoral stimulation and penetration. Try lubricating your finger with her vaginal fluids, and then slowly sliding it into her. You can move your hand in and out, or make a “come here” motion that strokes her G-spot. You can also use a finger to trace the folds of her labia, or use your hands to pull her labia further apart, or to stroke her thighs.

7) Once she's coming, don't stop.

Unless your lover specifically tells you to stop when she starts to come, hold her while you continue to lick around her clitoris and finger her. When a woman says that she "came hard," that is often how it happened.

There is no surefire way to get every single woman off. Just because drawing circles with your tongue drove your last lover wild doesn't mean your new lover will react the same way. Because of that, communicating with her as much as possible and taking note of what she likes is the best way to please her

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